There are no gravitons. There is no “need” for gravitons. There is only the potential energy field (spacetime), and the curves (waves) in that field created by and acting upon particles.

Feynman diagrams use an infinite regression of ever more complex arrangements of “virtual” particles to explain interactions. These diagrams have shown themselves to be useful shorthand for preparing the mathematics of quantum interactions. But what scientists continually forget is that the map is not the territory. “Virtual” means “not real”. There are no virtual particles. What exists is the entire rest of the universe, a vast array of particles creating and reacting to waves over unimaginable time periods. This results in a wide variety of waves interacting with each other, the particles under observation, and everything else they encounter, creating yet more waves through these interactions. It’s a chaotic (not just in the mathematical sense) mess.
A particle, if traveling quickly enough, does not necessarily follow the path of the waves it makes. (There are exceptions, like electron orbitals.) It can’t, as these waves propagate at finite speed, barely preceding the particle itself. It instead predominately follows the paths created by the waves generated from every other particle in existence - which we cannot with any real accuracy know. A slowly moving particle follows the path of these other waves, plus those created by its own waves propagating at the speed of causality and interacting with every other wave and particle they encounter. This looks an awful lot like a random assortment of chaos, with less and less predictable results for the particle under examination the longer it goes between observations. And thus, the semi-mystical randomness of traditional quantum physics.
The fundamental error of particle physics is to focus on just a few particles in an interaction and ignore the entire rest of the universe. They do this because it simplifies the math. This then produces nonsensical results like the measurement problem, the insistence that particles travel every infinite path on their way from here to there (violating every other known law of physics on the way), the observer effect and wave function collapse, and so forth. If the theory is not mathematically consistent (and quantum dynamics is not), if the calculations regularly result in infinities and singularities, if the calculations require renormalization (periodically throwing out your results and replacing them with experimentally determined values), then the theory is wrong.
The quantum wave equation is a measure of our necessary ignorance of conditions, not of some bizarre, inherent “unknowableness” of the laws of nature themselves. It would be laughable were it not so sad that those entrusted to study the most base layers of the laws of reality are taught to believe that reality has no inherent laws.
Copenhagen interpretation delenda est!